Saturday, October 25, 2008

ELEVATE Girls Night Out

Last night the 7th, 8th, and 9th grade girls from our church came to our house for a girls night out. The official name for this group of boys and girls is ELEVATE. Tim and Lauren, their group leaders, asked me to speak to the girls about "acting like a lady".

This is one of the moms, Lanell, and Lauren. Lanell and two young married ladies, Janet and Hannah were Lauren's helpers. They came early, prepared and set up the food, and went to the church, picked up the girls and drove them to our house. The girls arrived about 7:15.

There were 17 girls. I knew who some of them were, but this gave me the opportunity to get better acquainted with them and to get to know some new ones. They ate and visited first

Then we gathered round and had a chat. In order to prepare for this talk, I dug around in my library to see what I could find. All I could come up with was this.
This has been around since the 60's and has been revised several times, but the last time it was revised was in the 80's. I actually went through this program in a Sunday school class when I was about 14. Although much of the content is still good, some of it, along with the pictures, is so outdated. I found one page from it to copy and use but decided I needed some updated material. That called for a trip to the bookstore.

Speaking of bookstores, I had three options: Mardel, which is a Christian bookstore and would probably have something geared for Christian teens. Books-a-Million. And Barnes and Noble. Hmmm. Where to go first? I was out running errands. I was hungry for a snack, aaand I just happened to remember that last fall the Starbucks in Barnes and Noble had pumpkin cheesecake! To which I became seriously addicted. So, which bookstore do you think I decided on? Of course, it was a no-brainer! And yes, Starbucks did indeed have the pumpkin cheesecake (it's made by The Cheesecake Factory). So, I fortified myself with a hefty slice and a cup of tea, and I was ready to begin my search.

The lady at the helpdesk tried, but she could not find any etiquette books for teens. much less Christian teens, in stock. She showed me to the verrry small etiquette section. It was next to the wedding section. While there were lots of books on wedding etiquette, there were very few general etiquette books. Does this say something about our society? I hope not. This is a large store. I couldn't believe how limited the selection was. However, I came away with this gem of a book.
The first two chapters provided a springboard for what proved to be a lively and interesting discusssion. Although I provided a blank piece of paper at the end of the handouts for the girls to write questions and turn in for discussion, they didn't use them. Instead, they spoke up. While I got some insight into being a young teen in the 21st century, many of the challenges they face are the same that most of us faced at that time in our lives. They wanted to talk, so we did just that for a long time. They left about 10:15. after hugging me and thanking me repeatedly for having them to my home. Made me feel pretty special. After all, a 51 year old woman seems old to a 15 year old. They are special girls. I pray that God will keep them in His care and guide their steps.
Lauren, Janet, and Hannah stayed to clean up and we sat around and talked until almost 11:30.

I enjoyed every minute of it.

Janet and Hannah

It seems a good time was had by all.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

We had a great time that night at your house. You are a wonderful hostess. You create such a warm atmosphere from the time your guests are greeted at the door with your warm smile till the time they leave with a great big hug from you. All in all, we had a blast. I KNOW I walked out with more "knowledge" about being a lady. Like you said that matter what age we are, we're constantly working on being a "lady". And you, are a TRUE lady and a great example to our young girls and have been a role model to me!

I love you so much.

Lauren Adams

Oh, and by the way...this blog has inspired me to start my own.