Tuesday, June 9, 2009

The Best Is Yet to Come!

This blog has been on the back burner for awhile now. Really, it seems like I've taken it off the burner and set it aside. We've had a lot of things "cooking." Work-related things, church-related things, and social-related things. So many, many things to blog about, but we've been so busy living that I haven't taken the time to write about it.

This morning Tim said to me that he wanted me to just take a day for myself. "Don't do anything work-related," he told me. "Don't do anything you don't want to do. Just take care of yourself." That was music to my ears, because to tell the truth, I'm just worn out. "You might want to do a blog post," he said. He knows how much I enjoyed blogging. It was a welcome suggestion.

Where to begin? I haven't posted for about 2 1/2 months, I think.

Hmmm. I think I'll just begin with my honey. He had a birthday May 13. The big 5-0.

Now if you know Tim very well at all, you know he does not want to be the center of attention. He does not do things to call attention to himself. He most certainly would not ever want me to throw him a birthday party. It's just not his style. I'm a different story. I love any excuse for a big time, and I had been hatching plans for Tim's 50th for about 2 years.

To give you a little background, Tim is 2 years, 3 months, and 12 days younger than me, and in his good-natured, teasing way, he has never let me forget it. His teasing intensifies when I reach another decade mark. Here's a sample remark. "I'm just a young man, barely in my forties, and I'm married to a fifty-something woman."

To which I retort, "Yeah, in the tail end of your forties. You better watch it, mister, or I'm gonna get you good when you hit the fifty mark." He just grins. He's not too worried about it at that point. He's got some time. This has been going on for over 20 years now, and he knows the drill.

But when his big decade mark approaches, he starts to get worried. And he has very good reason to. When he turned thirty, I gave him a surprise "Over the Hill" party. Oh, was he ever surprised! We did it up right!

When he turned forty, I gave him a "Happy Birthday to the Old Guy" party. Another surprise. Lots of old geezer stuff. And lots of fun.

When I turned fifty, two years ago, Tim threw a surprise party for me. The theme? "The Best is Yet to Come." That is so typical of Tim. He is the sweetest guy on earth. It made me feel a little guilty about the party themes I chose for him but not too guilty :)

A couple of months before his birthday, Tim began bringing it up. "Honey, you know I don't want you to do anything special for my birthday." I just smiled sweetly. That smile did not bring him any comfort. None at all. He knew I had something up my sleeve. "You're not planning anything are you, Susan?" To which I replied, "You know I am."

He finally asked, "What would it take to get you NOT to do something for my birthday?"

"A nice trip?" I countered. I love to travel.

"You've got it," he said.

I'm a terrible person. I admit it.

Seriously, Tim loves to travel too. But he feels he should be working, not galavanting about. He works too hard and too long, and I threaten to kidnap him and take him far, far away where he has no cell phone signal. Where he can relax and recharge his batteries. And while I have never actually kidnapped him, I do plan our travels, to which he reluctantly agrees. Then, he has the biggest time of anyone on the trip, and comes home the better for it.

Last summer we took a couple of trips, where he had no cell phone reception (Holmes County, Ohio, home of the USA's largest Amish community) or where the reception was limited or just too expensive (Prince Edward Island, Canada).

It has been a long time since we got away for more than a couple of days, so my taking him up on a trip in trade for no big birthday bash was not a totally selfish move. He needs a break.

Tim and I spent a couple of quiet days at the farm for his birthday. He said it was the best birthday he has ever had.
We have an upcoming trip planned :)

I did not give him the party I was planning. The theme? "Welcome to the AARP!" I was planning to give it at the Patrick Henry Hays Senior Citizen's Center here in our lovely city. I had planned to present him with his AARP card. But, as he pointed out, he doesn't need his own card. He's had AARP benefits for over two years now, since he's married to "a much older woman."

Happy birthday, darling! I love you so! The best is yet to come!

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